Korben's Blog

Soon to be Collared

After 10 years of being together, and in celebration of our developing Daddy/boy relationship, Daddy has decided to get me a collar to wear 24/7. The collar he has decided on (and he made his decision the moment he saw it) is the Titanium Talena from Axsmar.

Daddy also ordered it with the locking mechanism that provides two small hex screws, which are very discreet and not visible once worn, allowing only him to remove it.

It’s currently on order, and should hopefully be completed within 2 weeks, which is very exciting!

Back from Holiday and Folsom Street

Just landed back from San Francisco on Friday. Been a very busy 2 weeks with Vegas, San Francisco, Folsom Street and Yosemite – I have lots of updates to do on here. This weekend has been busy with washing and all the other sorting out that needs to be done when you’ve been out the country for 14 days so my posts won’t appear until later next week; but here is a lovely picture of Daddy and I at Folsom this year :)

Planning a Holiday the Daddy/boy Way

It’s now just over 1 weeks until Daddy and I fly off for our big annual holiday. I’ve now got a big list of things I need to get done and thought I’d write up a post detailing them and how we work when planning a holiday.

It starts with a decision on where we want to go, and an idea of when we want to go. I will then go off and research the destination to find out if there are any events on we would enjoy, and see what the flight & hotel costs are for the dates we have in mind. Once I have this I will go to Daddy and let him know what I’ve found. Once happy with everything we will both book the time off from work.

Flights

With the time-off from work booked and confirmed I will then book the flights. I always book us into business class or better as Daddy likes his space – and I’m a boy with expensive tastes :) Usually I always book with British Airways, but for the last 2 trips we have gone with Virgin Atlantic as their Upper Class service is really good.

When booking flights I always plan how to get the best value – which means paying with a card that will earn us points and usually going through a cashback site like Quidco (this year we got £90 cashback from Quidco when I booked the flights via. them).

Hotels

Once we have the start and end dates for the the holiday confirmed and flight booked it is then Daddy’s role to book the hotels we are staying in. I don’t really know why it ended up like this, I get everything done apart from hotels. I guess it’s just a thing we both like where he takes the dominant role when we are at our destination and checks us in, while I stand back.

Tickets, Money, Passport

With everything booked I then go into planning mode. I budget the costs for the holiday, work out how much we need for hotels, spending money, etc. I then create a savings plan so the we put into a holiday account the money we need each month so that when the holiday arrives we have all the cash ready for it.

I prepare all the foreign currency, make sure that passports are up-to-date and sort out any visas that we need for the trip. I also print off all the itineraries (in duplicate) for the trip so that we have everything we need to hand.

Don’t Forget Your Toothbrush

Lastly I pack all our clothing. I get Daddy to lay out everything he wants to take on the bed, then he goes downstairs to play Xbox. This then allows me to spring into action and pack the bags. I make sure that all the bags are within the weight limits of the airlines and pack so that if a bag gets lost we can cope on the contents of the others for a few days.

I get all the hand luggage ready – with all the cameras, electronics and things we need during transit and pack them into our carry-on bag. We are then ready to roll and enjoy our trip.

The night before we depart I always clean the house from top to bottom so that when we return everything is lovely and clean. I also book groceries to be delivered on our return so the few days getting over the jet lag are as easy as possible.

I then get to enjoy two solid weeks of Daddy time and morning lie-ins with snuggles – bliss :)

Shopping Trip

Yesterday I went on a little shopping trip in London. Daddy had the wedding of a work colleague that he was attending; so I was a free boy for the day. I needed to get a leather harness for my outfit I am wearing to Folsom Street this year, so I took the opportunity to get it.

I met up in the morning with Pup Loki and his Sir. We headed off to Fortnum and Mason, as Daddy and I were in need of some new jam and coffee, we then headed over to Expectations. I had already done some window shopping online and decided that the selection at Expectations was one of the best and at a very good price. I pretty much saw this harness straight away and after trying it on it was decided – good fit and good price makes for a happy boy. Harnesses can be a pain for me as I’m quite slim but this is nice and snug, but with plenty of growing room – should I even get some muscle!

We grabbed some lunch at a Tapas place just round the corner from Kings Cross station, and has some very nice food. Loki and his Sir introduced me to Churros, which were rather yummy but I was good and only had 1. We then visited RoB to get a new sound for Loki’s Sir. After a very busy morning of shopping we stopped for tea and cake before our goodbyes and off home.

Daddy got back from the wedding today and likes the harness – result!

Focusing on Daddy

Going through life it’s very easy to be selfish, to have things your own way and usually get what you want. In a relationship it is less so – you are a couple and you need to be aware of each others needs and wants; sometimes you have to sacrifice something you want for whatever reason.

Daddy and I started our relationship 10 years ago and back then I was a young twink who had been single my whole life. Now normally the start of a relationship signals the end of that lifestyle of getting your own way, but as I was very young and Daddy wanted to please me the best he could I ended up usually getting my own way – either straight away, after a tantrum or by moaning.

I’m not proud of that fact, and now I’m older and can look back at these things and see what I was doing wrong. I’ve started to turn things around and focus on making sure that Daddy’s needs are fulfilled, as well as doing things that aren’t necessary but nice touches to show Daddy how special he is to me.

Here is a list I’ve created of the 5 things in my life that I am going to focus on doing for Daddy, either because he has specifically asked for them or they are things I know would make him happy. I will then review this list in the New Year; removing items I have succeeded at achieving and adding new ones.

1. Remove my PA Piercing
   I’ve now had a PA piercing for 4 years, and Daddy let me get it as I was something I had always wanted. He isn’t too keen on it and I know he would prefer I didn’t have it. Although we tried once to have it out, I became rather boisterous about having it back in, which was wrong. I have now taken it out myself and feel really good about it.
2. Stop Sexual Pleasure without Daddy’s Consent
   This is something I am getting better at, but still needs work. I have a very high sex drive and find myself wanking far too much. I have really cut back on this but I haven’t managed to fully get it under control. This has an impact on sex with Daddy as I’m less attentive to him if I have cum recently. I am going to stop all self pleasure unless Daddy gives his consent, so that I am always ready to please him and will be far more grateful when I am given permission to cum.
3. Require Approval for Personal Spending
   We both have a spending budget each month, and to be honest I quite often get more than the fair share of it – and sometimes waste it on silly things. I am now going to get permission from Daddy for all my personal spending – making a justification for what I would like to buy.
4. Allow Daddy to Decide on my Hair Style and Appearance
   Currently I have a #1 skinhead, and I like it because it’s easy to manage. I do know that Daddy really liked my hair how I used to have it, in a short french crop style. After our holiday in September I am going to give Daddy control over my hairstyle, as well as my weekend clothing. (Weekdays excluded as I like to just chuck on something comfy for work).
5. Be More Respectful to Daddy
   This is a general point. I can sometimes be rude to Daddy for no reason, or just back-chat a bit. I am going to just think about things before I say them and give Daddy the respect that he deserves.

Hopefully by the New Year I will have met all these aims and will be able to start on improving some new areas of my life and our relationship – allowing me to focus better on life and what is important to me and Daddy.

Welcome

Welcome to my blog! If you are reading this and thinking – isn’t it a bit late to be writing a welcoming post – you’d be right! My previous blog on this URL was a real mess of stuff that didn’t really reflect me and what I wanted to get across, so I’ve cleared out all the old posts and I’m starting out fresh.

To begin this new blog I have sat down and re-written the ‘About Me’ page - please go and take a look at it now, I hope it’s a good read!

My aim is to post one decent quality post each week about a D/b relationship, along with any number of smaller posts, links and pictures. Hopefully I’ll keep to my promise :)